How to Survive Motherhood Without Wine or Coffee


I know you just started reading because you thought, “This lady is crazy!” or “What’s she selling?” Well, I am not crazy, and I am a not selling anything. I don’t drink wine or coffee. Wine is not strong enough for me. I am a rum, vodka, or long island iced tea girl! Those aren’t the drinks that you normally sip at the end of the day to unwind – they are turn-up drinks! And I have never liked coffee. The taste of coffee beans is just not good to me. It doesn’t matter if it’s iced or has whipped cream and chocolate or even ice cream – it’s just not good! So, how I survive motherhood? Mostly, I find my energy and sanity the natural way.

1. Sleep

Adults need 7-9 hours of sleep per night. My whole life, I have always had at least 8 hours of sleep a night, but that of course changed when my children were babies. However, I did everything I could to get as much sleep as possible. I went to bed at 9 pm and let my husband do that 12 am feeding so that when I woke up at 3 am, I had 6 hours of sleep. My son would stay up from 3 am-5 am, and I was fine because I had 6 hours of sleep. When he went down at 5 am, so did I. I would get 2-3 hours then, so I did get 7-9 hours of sleep – just not in a row. Luckily, my kids are sleeping through the night now. Now I go to bed at 11 pm because I know they will be up at 7 am!

I have friends who tell me they are fine on only 4,5, or 6 hours of sleep. Yes, they are “fine,” but don’t you want to be great and not need coffee at 3 pm?

2. Water

Adults need a half of an ounce for every pound of weight they have. So if you are 128 pounds, then 64 oz or 8 glasses a day is all you need, but if you weigh more then you need to drink more!

It doesn’t have just to be water. I drink vitamin water zero or hint water when I am tired of plain water. I give my kids watermelon when I can’t get them to drink water. Just pick no or low-calorie options that are mostly water (not sugar!).

Water replenishes your body and helps it perform better. You will notice a difference after a few days of drinking more water.


3. Healthy food

Adults (and children) need lean meat, fruits, vegetables, whole grains and other good carbohydrates. We don’t need sugar! Some of you may argue no meat or no dairy or no gluten. That’s cool as long as you don’t replace it with Oreos and M&Ms.

I promise you the cleaner your diet, the more energy you will have. Last fall, my weight was higher than when I was pregnant. Every day, I told my husband that by 7:30 pm when the kids went down that I was too tired to do anything. I laid in bed and watched TV, and that’s about it! I tried sleeping more, but that didn’t help.

In January, I overhauled my diet and I don’t feel that way anymore. I still yawn at 7:30 pm when I am reading a bedtime story, but then I get up and do laundry or hop on the computer for work or personal to-do items – and my brain can still function to get them done!


4. Exercise

Adults need at least 150 minutes a week of moderate aerobic activity or 75 minutes a week of vigorous aerobic activity according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. So, if you are just starting out, walking for 30 minutes a day, five times a week is great! That is how I started in January. I do it in the morning because I have the most energy and because I don’t want to have an excuse not to do it.

I believe that exercise boosts my energy level, lowers my stress level and helps me keep going through the day.


Pain is temporary. This was taken after a 5k in June! I broke my personal record time!

5. Massages

Adults need at least one massage a month! They reduce stress, pain and muscle tension. I have been getting massages for years and now that I have children I have been getting them more regularly. They are my treat for following steps 1-4!

Please don’t think I believe there is anything wrong with you drinking wine or coffee. If you are not doing either in excess, then it’s fine. But if you want to cut back and don’t know how you will get through the day, now you know how I do it.

Note: Excess for coffee is over 28 8 oz cups a week (or 24 oz a day), and for wine, it is eight 5 oz glasses a week.

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