This afternoon, my husband made me an amazing steak sandwich. He used the good bread… Pepperjack cheese… Yummy steak… And he even chopped-up and grilled onions.
It’s a sandwich I will remember forever.
He may actually get sex tonight.
After 14 years of marriage and 3 kids – it’s that kind of romantic gesture that means so much.
Romance changes quite a bit over the years..
I got married at 22 years old. He proposed to me after just 3 months.
I don’t think anyone expected our marriage to last. I seriously believe my in-laws were placing bets as to how many months before we called it quits…
But I knew.
In the beginning – Romance was flowers and jewelry…
I remember, for our 4 year anniversary we went looking at anniversary bands.. We wandered into the jewelry store and he told me he had been saving up for the past year to buy me something special – and I got a ring SO much more than what I expected.
But after you have been together awhile and have kids – expectations of romance change.
I know a lot of you new parents out there think that’s sad and pathetic… But it’s not.
These days, romance is him coming home and bathing the kids…
It’s gathering the family and waiting for me in the rain at the end of the marathon…
It’s waking up in the middle of the night when the baby starts screeching…
It’s grilled onions.
And here’s the thing — I love him more now than I did the day I married him.
Every time I see him playing and caring for our children – that spark rekindles.
Valentine’s Day is coming up – A day designed for romance.
And if he brings me chocolates and tulips, that will be awesome. I will post the picture to Facebook along with the millions of other women doing the same thing, and write about how fantastic my hubby is..
But, to me, that’s no longer romance.
Years and decades down the road I will not remember those tulips..
You know what I will remember?
That fantastic steak sandwich – and the time he took to grill those onions.