What Will They Remember?

Well, Father’s Day 2013 is almost here. I have three kids that are nearly 7, 8, and 9 and they mean the world to me. I love them very much. They keep me grounded and focused and give me a purpose. I can’t imagine life without them.

I’d like to think that I am a good father but I know that I could be better at it. I work hard, 18 hour days sometimes, to try to give them a life that is free from major stresses. I strive to give them a better childhood than I had.

I contribute to a college fund. My family has health insurance. We are luckier than most, and I am very thankful for that. Maybe it’s not all luck as I work really, really hard. My chest hurts sometimes, my back hurts sometimes and I often find myself too tired to play with them. I’m sometimes grumpy when I probably shouldn’t be.

As I sit here, I wonder what they will remember of me once I am gone. If I were to die tomorrow, how would they describe me to my grandkids?

Will they remember that I worked hard for them? Will they remember that I bought them healthy foods? Will they remember that I could take them to the doctor when they were really sick?

Will they just remember the times when I was grumpy and yelled and didn’t have time to play with them?

I have my reasons for doing the things that I do and for making the choices that I make. I’m not perfect and I’m not a saint. I’ve made mistakes and I have regrets.

I’m going to wrap up this article now. I’m going to strive to give my children the best Father’s Day that I can. I’m going to give them a good day to remember me by. Maybe I should strive to do this every day but, at least for Father’s Day, I’m going to be the best dad that I can be.

To all you dad’s out there, get off your computer. Stop reading blogs and web articles written by rambling fathers. Spend some quality time with your kids. Play with them, hug them, and kiss them. Give them a good day to remember you by. You never know, it may be your last chance.

jameskidsdinoAbout James

James is a father to three young kids. He works for a Fortune 500 company as a Senior SharePoint Developer.   In his off-hours he enjoys spending quality time with his family, recumbent biking, and developing websites.

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2 Responses to What Will They Remember?

  1. artsnark June 12, 2013 at 11:42 am #

    great post from the heart. Wishing you a wonderful Father’s Day

  2. tbmama June 13, 2013 at 8:57 am #

    I always think about what my daughter will remember about me. Hopefully the good things. That is one thing I learned a few years ago when I was blogging ALL the time… my husband said to me one day, “stop blogging about being a good mom and actually be a mom”. Since then I have vowed never to let blogging or internet takeover my full time responsibility of being a parent.